Four Attitudes Imperative To Self-Empowerment


To be empowered begins with the mind because the biggest tool everyone has is the mind. The willingness to operate one’s mind is the reason why those who have become public figures look like they have not faced challenges. Challenges that may have been worse than what most persons yet to succeed are currently entangled with. The deal is how much one can persevere, how many times you are willing to try again and how much you have refused to give up on your dreams among other attributes. One without hopes and dreams needs to get a life. Yes, every existence should be geared towards something. And the most figurative factor towards success is existence – life. Those who have ceased to exist are not in any race to be successful. Hence, to be living means you have a fight. And those who don’t believe in the fight have ceased to exist until they believe in something.


Success has been defined by many based on their perspectives. It is not wrong to agree with those who have defined success as being able to accomplish your purpose of living. And the biggest question lies in the last three words; “purpose of living”. Until you believe you have a purpose and establish that as your own, it’d be impossible to summon the energies in you, which is necessary to become successful in the quest. The beauty of success is that it overwhelms every past challenge. Success simply set a new platform for a beginning that’s smoother. This simply means that the quest does not stop when a specific dream has been achieved. Some environments may give one an edge to move faster, but every level of life gives one a new level of challenge. And the number of breakthroughs depicts the size of your success. You can agree with me that the bigger you grew, the more responsibility you carry. And to everyone who seeks to achieve more, your empowerment begins with your psychological reference. We will shortly look at some attitudes taught by J.K. Rowling, the author of Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone, attitudes imperative to your greatest empowerment irrespective of the starting point.

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Start With what you are very much Familiar with

The stages of life may allow one to take part in many aspects of life. Some desperately want to become renowned philanthropists. But a reconnaissance on the life of those who have achieved that position strongly suggests they were at some positions before becoming one. Success begins with what you can do with the little knowledge or resources available. What have you done with the little that has been given to you? Books were the most available items in the early life of Joanne Rowling, such that she could describe herself as a common-or-garden bookworm. This opportunity led to her dreams of writing a spectacular book and she started working on just that at the closest gasp of the inspiration. Can you imagine where she would have been if she had chosen to start her career as a singer? Perhaps, she would have done well as a songwriter or even a singer. But what matters most is that she took a path that’s parallel to her personal development. This favored the most prolific success she imagined. Hence, the most significant deal is the path you have chosen to light-up your true success irrespective of other notable engagements.


Take the positive side of your Challenges

Sometimes we see our challenges or stages as a block preventing us from succeeding. Instead of seeing them as a prerequisite to the success we are looking for. Taking the positive side helps you resolve every challenge as quickly as possible. It also helps you adapt any permanent or temporary change it has established in your life. Joanne must have been filled with loads of disappointment when she was moving back to the UK from Portugal after her marriage with Jorge Arantes failed. She did not charge her challenges from the negative point of view nor. At the back of her mind, “I’ll have a better opportunity to complete this long awaited novel”. It’s

problem  easy to believe she ceased that opportunity to bury her entire emotions towards bringing something rewarding. Joanne accepted the punishments in her developmental process when she decided to be trained as a teacher. Not considering her previous status or age. This attribute can be seen to have reflected in the book content – the power of self-sacrifice and decision making.


Ensure that every opportunity is utilized to the Best

Every opportunity given to us in life can be viewed as an exam. The more effort you give, the better you score. To those who believe, they’d rather do better in the next opportunity would have themselves to blame for confining their success at the corners of the next opportunity, which would never be there again. J.K. Rowling was teaching in the city’s school when she was writing Harry Potter’s manuscripts. axeman   That moment had given her the opportunity to bring out a piece of what she has for the literary world and she nailed it without accepting any lapses. It is obvious she found an atmosphere in Edinburgh which is supportive to Harry Porter’s inspiration. Consider every opportunity as an avenue to bring out the best of you, even with the very little projects and your affairs with people.


Losing hope to your dreams is not an Option

There are positions you would find yourself that would make you think there is no way to success in a specific course. Yes, those awkward moments when you just realize that your present efforts are not good enough to active the dreamland. Harry Potter was not the very first book written by J. K. Rowling, she had tried to activate her dreams many times when she had her previous books published. But when it didn’t happen, she never gave up. It is your duty to work harder each time you exhaust all you have to realize very little or nothing in the end. It’s easier if you stick to the fact that your success is the reason why you are living and that cannot be compromised. Successful people are those who failed and tried again. Don’t imagine the negative results, be optimistic and note that your willingness to keep pressing is the only reason why you will succeed.


Personal Development

Personality Development

Contrary to the popular believe, once can improve one’s personality. Previous it was believed that personality could not be changed. The famous Harvard psychologist, William James in 1890 wrote about how personality was set in plaster by early adulthood. This perspective thrived for more than a century. Nevertheless, the notion that personality is much more than a fluid has gained wide credibility over time. We have come to the point where we have to come to the realization that we have control and influence over which characteristics and traits that require refining or development.

What then is Personality?

This is the normal pattern of feeling, thinking, and behavior, which distinguishes a person from another. For example, when we make a statement such as saying someone has a “good personality” what is meant is that he or she is interesting, likable, and pleasant to be with. Nobody wants to be unattractive to others. To this end, a good personality is very important. According to statistics, about 85% of your happiness and success lies in how perfectly you are able to interact with others. At the end, it is your personality that plays a vital role if people will be attracted to your or shy off. So are there ways to help someone on how to improve the personality of an individual? Our physical appearance can be enhanced to a certain extent, nevertheless as humans we possess the power of improving our personality to whatever degree we want. However, the following are some ways of improving our personality.

  • Be a great listener: Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was regarded to be among the most charming women in the world. Why? Because she nurtured the skill of a better listener. She has this ability to look someone in the eyes, hold on to every single word they spoke and make them feel valuable. This is something that is appealing to the world where selfishness reigns.
  • Read and develop your interests: Another way of improving your personality is by reading. The more you read and develop your interest; you become more interesting to others. Meeting new people gives you the prospect of sharing your knowledge and interchanges your views with them.
  • Be a good speaker: This connects to the point previously explained. Once you can be able to contribute to issues, you can also learn about how to talk about such issues with others. Not everybody can know about everything and it is refreshing to gain knowledge from others. Nevertheless, if you are shy, you can consider joining a group such as Toastmasters where they encourage you on talking about what you know.
  • Form your own opinion: What could be more irritating than you trying to making a conversation with someone who cannot have his or her own opinion. If you cannot expound on a conversation, it has nowhere to go. A unique outlook opens up everyone’s perception.
  • Meet New People: Ensure you put the effort in meeting new people mostly those who are not like you. Meeting new people not only broadens your horizons but also exposes you to quite a lot of different cultures and ways of doing things.
  • Be yourself: Next, after people who are irritation like those who cannot form, their own opinion is those trying to be who they are not. Trying to mold yourself to fit according to others or wanting to be accepted does backfire. Each of us is special and our specialty is express in diverse ways. Be yourself, do not be a photocopy. Be authentic.
  • Cultivate a positive attitude and outlook: Nobody wants to hang around sound one who is negative and sees the bad side of life ALWAYS. You will not like someone who complains about everything. Rather be different, be the one that brings light in a dark room. Do you want to know how to improve personality? See the best in things and people. Spread good cheer, smile warmly, and brighten others through your presence.
  • Be compassionate of others: Becoming compassionate is something you can integrate to your personality. Be accommodative not only to yourself but also to others. In this way, you not only add value to your life, but also to those around you.
  • Treat People with respect and exhibit Integrity: Honesty is a virtue; it makes you keep to your word. This makes you command respect, admiration, and gratitude of others. Thinking of how to improve your personality, and then improve on your respect and integrity.

As human beings, we do not only have the ability but also the power to shape how we want our personality to be. Once we make that decision of developing ourselves, it enables us to contribute as we ought to and make others happy.

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Successful Family Living- Small Family Home

Building a small family home is very important. Certain things are required to build a home. If perhaps, you have considered improving the quality of your family life, then you have to pay utmost attention to these things. It is one thing to build a home and another to be closer to your family. You might want to learn creating that habit of eating together with your family. Nevertheless, at times it is hard for all members of the family to eat together, but it you can make it a habit. For parents who goes to vacations with their children finds it easier in dealing with them on the daily grind. This experience brings the parent and kids closer. The primary goal of all these is to spend time together as a family. This article looks at the way of building a positive environment for every member of the family and enhancing family living together. We also offer suggestions on building a small family home where activities are geared towards improving self-esteem, promoting physical fitness, and increasing creativity and stronger family ties.

It is a fact that no investment is much better than spending quality time with family and loved ones. The term “family” is a word that is collective, it is not merely group of individuals living together under the same roof or building, but these are people who are connected and share good and bad times together. This is essential, why it is a family. So is there any benefit when families come together? Let us look at six benefits associated with family coming together.

When you spend time together as a family or indulge in leisure activities helps in strengthening the bond between families. This is true for all kinds of activities. These activities do not require much money, they could be low-cost activities, which are home-based such as gardening, playing board games, or playing outdoor activities. These can create a huge impact on the overall health of the family. This makes a family be emotionally closer, which is a good thing. Balanced activities are those, which require more planning, money, and time. Mundane everyday activities are core to building the family. Strengthening of the family bond is one of the benefits of a small family home where everyone comes together.

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Improves Child’s Academic Performance

The success of a child academically is always connected to the provision of guidance and help provided by their parents. The hardest and most important of all is the first step. This is true when it comes to studying. There is a positive effect in the future of the children when this guidance and help is provided during the first academic years of their life.

It Helps the Kids in Developing Parenting Skills

Time spend with parents helps them in developing parental skills. As odd as it may sound, this is the truth. Kids learn by example. If a certain behavior is set, they will surely remember them as they grow and apply it to their own life in the future.

Less Behavioral Problems

Less behavioral problems have been associated to youths who consistently communicate with their parents. When it comes to kids, communication is the key solution to solving a lot of problems. The fact cannot be denied that teenagers undergo hard times and the best way of helping them out is through quality advice from their parents. The less behavioral problem they are to the society, the better the world.

Less Violence

Most crimes are because of disjointed family and adolescents without any closer relationship with their parent have a high tendency of committing violence. For various reasons, teenagers are often infuriated. During their “teenagers” period, there are many emotions, some are too difficult for them to control. The moment they cannot control it, they can escalate to different acts of violence. This could be against their peers or a form of self-infliction. One of the ways of relieving feelings of anger and anxiety is when parent spend quality and undistracted time with their parents.

Less Chance of Drug Abuse

Most small family home where divorce has racked the foundation is likely to breed children who will abuse drugs. Nevertheless, when parents and teenagers spend time together, there are little chances of engaging in any drug abuse. Teenagers who have better understanding and help from their parents beside them will be free from such problem and hardly to be influenced by their peer to indulge in such activities.

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Just thought of doing something “Out of the box” and fun.

A little quote I wrote ….enjoy.


I closed my eyes and the inspiration keeps pouring in. I am happy for the man I’ve become but then the beauty of life is not when you grow old, but when you achieve your dreams as you grow older. On your way to success, never give up, even if the world turns its back on you. Remember, there would be light at the end of the tunnel. So, I say “One love to that beautiful girl that will make a guy like me smile.”


Truly Thankful Thursday

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I got up this morning thankful but tired. Tired because I had a late night and I tossed and turn when I finally got to bed. Somewhere in between going to sleep i remembered….It’s going to be Thursday. I smiled to myself…Thursday, the threshold of the weekend, rest, sleep late, relaxation…my friends, gosh I love Thursdays. I finally snuggled into bed with my thoughts at rest somewhat. Enjoying the fact that Threshold Thursday is upon me. I went to sleep contended that the week is almost over. …..To get up to the sound of my alarm clock mere minutes before I fell asleep.

Urghhhhhhhhhh. I dislike the weekdays. However I am thankful for LIFE, and a sound MIND. I was reminded of my creator and his mercies towards me. The mere fact I am alive this morning shows a God who is interested not in the mess I have made of my life and the people that I have hurt, but he is interested in me. A crazy, unworthy person like me.

After that though Thursdays will be Thankful Thursday from now on…One more day to the weekend, but it’s also one more day to experience LIFE, PEACE and LOVE.

Pulling my bun back, I looked at myself in the mirror and thanked God for the gift of LIFE on this THANKFUL THURSDAY morning.

Have a great Day everyone!!!